What is Sexual Harassment?

Most often, sexual harassment happens to females and is instigated by males. This is not always the case: Men can be affected by this problem, too. This can also be referred to as 'gender harassment.' Basically, it's bullying that involves insulting, frightening, or intimidating someone based on his or her gender and by the amount of power the harasser possesses. It isn't usually a one-time occurence: It is often repetitive. And it doesn't only happen in big businesses: it's about power.

 

What does it "look like"? Here are some examples-

 

Comments, often ending in "Sweetheart" "Honey" or other terms of endearment

• "Why don't you smile?"
• "Your (fill in body part here) looks great in that skirt"
• "I like a high heel on a woman, the higher the better"
• "If you want to make an impression, you gotta show more leg"
• 'You're too pretty to bother your head about that"
• Catcalls and wolf whistles as a woman walks down the street
• "Can I have your number? No? Why not?"
• Obscene gestures, remarks, and insults; calling women insulting names
• Sometimes those making the remarks claim they're compliments. They're not.

It can be in the form of texts, e-mails, posted notices, or pictures that are sexually explicit/offensive, especially in the workplace, or anywhere. These may even contain threats if the victim tells or doesn't cooperate.

 The audacity of men who overtly state their 'power' over women:

• "You were by far the best looking candidate, so we hired you."
• "Your ideas don't really matter, honey. Just sit there and look pretty."
• "Men have always run this company: Don't try to play with the guys."
• "You're good eye candy even if you're never going to go any further."
• "It's so cute how you think you know this business."
• "Let's be clear: I'm in charge, and you never will be. You're too pretty for that anyway."
• "You don't need to be an executive, let your husband do that."
• "If you really want the promotion, you'll let me."
• "Women can't do that."
• "Maybe if you wore a shorter skirt, you'd get a raise."

 Unwanted touching-This can be called assault

• Someone slaps your behind with a laugh and a wink
• Someone puts a hand on your back to guide you into a room
• Someone puts a hand on the back of your neck as he speaks to you
• Someone gives you a hug you didn't ask for
• Someone kisses you-anywhere
• Someone surrounds you such as up against a wall, or in the pretense of showing you something on your computer
• Someone pats your knee
• Someone 'adjusts' your clothes: Buttons a button, unzips or zips a zipper
• Someone fusses with your hair
• Someone plots to get you alone somewhere so that you have no way out

There are people who carry it much further and have raped women because they know they can 'get away with it,' the women feel powerless when left alone with a powerful man, believing all he wants is to have a drink with her and then finding he is forcing himself on her: no matter how fit a woman is, she will almost always be less physically powerful and unable to fight him off, plus he has placed her in a frightened and vulnerable position. He may give her a drug without her knowledge that makes her unable to refuse, or to be unaware what is happening.

Fear of having the public know about the assault, fear of the rapist and all the money he has, will often lead to the silence of women and the ability for the rapist to continue to do it to others. She may be afraid no one will believe her, as well. Sadly, there's still a tendency to blame the victim:

• She must have been asking for it.
• Why did she dress like that? What did she expect?
• She brought it on herself
• She's a tease

How pervasive is sexual harassment?

The EEOC (Equal Opportunity Commission) says that in 2012 there were about 15,000 sexual harassment complaints filed. Of these....

• 79% of people with sexual harassment complaints were women, 21% men
• 51% of these people experienced the harassment from a supervisor
• 38% of these people were harassed by someone of a higher rank on the job
• 12% of these people were threatened with being fired if they spoke out
• There were 26,000 cases of sexual harassment reported in the armed forces in 2012 (a traditionally male-dominant field)

Title VII of the Civil Rights Act lays out the law against sexual harassment, a form of discrimination. This bill was passed in 1964.

How can we stop it?

• If you're considering a rude remark, stop and think first: Would it be OK if someone said that to your mother/wife/daughter/sister? No? Then don't say it.
• Respect: it's called for in everyday living, everywhere, with everyone
• Don't join a "good ole boys" group. It's stupid.
• Just because someone else said it or did it, doesn't mean it's OK
• Put some thought into your remarks, your actions, how you conduct yourself. Be the honorable one.
• Be a role model: Let others see how you conduct yourself, including younger boys and men
• Better to have never done it, but an apology is the next best thing

                               Not just applicable to street harassment

For those who are victims of sexual harassment, remember:

• Your personal space is just that. You have every right to say, don't do that or don't talk to me that way.
• Your body is not for anyone to touch unless you want them to. You can very firmly and loudly say, stop that right now. It's probably a good idea to leave the area immediately as well.
• You don't have to listen to or read anything that bullies you.
• Report the person and the situation. It doesn't matter if you have no witnesses.
• Don't ever let yourself believe that a person in a position of power has the right to assault you.

There are resources available to help you fight the harrassment:
Here are some:
http://www.aauw.org/what-we-do/legal-resources/know-your-rights-at-work/workplace-sexual-harassment/
http://www.feminist.org/911/harass.html
https://www.eeoc.gov/laws/types/sexual_harassment.cfm

 

 

 

International Womens Month

International Womens Day was Wednesday, March 8, 2017, but the whole month is a good time to reflect on women, women's rights, and progress we have and have not made towards the equal rights and treatment of women.

Did you know? As late as the mid 1800s....

Married women were legally dead in the eyes of the law

Women were not allowed to vote

Women had to submit to laws when they had no voice in their formation

Married women had no property rights

Husbands had legal power over and responsibility for their wives to the extent that they could imprison or beat them with impunity

Divorce and child custody laws favored men, giving no rights to women

Women had to pay property taxes although they had no representation in the levying of these taxes

Most occupations were closed to women and when women did work they were paid only a fraction of what men earned

Women were not allowed to enter professions such as medicine or law

Women had no means to gain an education since no college or university would accept women students

With only a few exceptions, women were not allowed to participate in the affairs of the church

Women were robbed of their self-confidence and self-respect, and were made totally dependent on men

        -Elizabeth Cady Stanton, 1848

The question of whether women were citizens of the United States is subject to discussion, since their rights clearly were not the same as men and they did not have the right to vote until 1920.

 

Another argument against expansion of citizenship rights has been that “natural law” or “religious law” should supersede claims for political rights. Women, it was argued through the early 20th century, should not be given the right to vote because it was seen as “unnatural” and against the intentions of God. One young woman worker on strike during the winter of 1909-10 for higher pay and safer working conditions was arrested and dragged before a judge who, sentencing her to jail time, informed her that she was “on strike against God and Nature.” Similar arguments have been made more recently against extending employment and marriage rights to gay people.
-Anneliese Orleck, Professor of History, Dartmouth College

 

• Women have served in the military in countries all over the world, defending their countries alongside men.
• Currently about 15% of all people serving in our military, or more than 165,000, are women.
• Here are some facts about women in the United States military: http://www.cnn.com/2013/01/24/us/military-women-glance/index.html

In case you thought the struggle for women was over many years ago, consider:
In the 1970s, which is not even 50 years ago:

• Women still were not paid the same for men doing the exact same job. Why? The excuse was, men were usually the primary breadwinner in the family and thus merited more pay.
• Women were expected to wear dresses to work. Once there was a slight relaxation of this common expectation, pants could be worn, but only in the form of a pants suit with a particular type of blouse. The clothing of a woman was much more important than that of a man.
• Even women in more professional careers were expected to make coffee for meetings simply because they were women. 
• If a woman got married, she was expected to quit her job to stay home and run her household.
• If a woman stayed working after marriage, she was certainly expected to quit her job once she became pregnant. It was assumed she would be staying home with her child.
• Women who returned to work after having a baby, having someone else care for the child, were looked down upon.
• If a woman's husband was offered a job in another city, it was assumed she would then be leaving with him: There was no discussion about what she wanted or whether it was good for her career.

• Women in traditionally male careers were not to be trusted, such as a woman doctor, attorney, engineer. There was thoughts of: Why get a degree when you're just going to get married and stay home anyway? In fact, even completing a high school diploma was considered a waste for girls until the 1950s or so.
• In some jobs, the employer could (and did) give a pregnant woman different duties so that she wouldn't be seen by the public once she started to 'show.'
• Also in terms of pregnancy, young women who became pregnant outside of marriage were often sent away to have their babies and give them up; friends were told the girl had gone on a trip or to live with someone several states away for a while, and in some cases their parents disowned them altogether, 'kicked them out.' There was no punishment for the father of the baby.
• Girls wore dresses to school, not pants and certainly not jeans.
• Protests were common, with women demanding equal pay and respect. But women who participated were thought of as radical.
• Women who voiced their opinions, whether at home, at work, or in public, were 'troublemakers.'

The U.S. Dept of Labor statistics on women in the workforce may surprise you: https://www.dol.gov/wb/stats/stats_data.htm